Among Japanese teenagers the most basic way of starting to date someone is by giving them a “kokuhaku” or love confession.
This sounds a bit creepy but it’s not so much telling someone you love them but rather the Japanese way of letting them know you like them and asking them out.
What I realized with Americans is that if you make out with them the way we do in Brazil, they get the wrong idea. ” He tried to sound really nice as he was asking me what was the point in “this.” So American, right? The first time I went on a date with an American guy I was so nervous because I felt like we had no intimacy whatsoever. For me, dating is meeting a 20 year-old that is a friend of a friend at a bar, thinking he’s cute, and then your friend making things happen. And then you still don’t go on a date, you say things like: “Everyone’s going to that bar on Friday, will you be there? It’s harder to meet people here — they’re anti-social.
I’m always scared that they’re going to assume that kissing is anything more than “I’m kind of interested in you.”The first guy I went out with here, while we were making out he asked me, “Should I get a condom? I hope so.” I don’t know why I would put myself through the experience of being forced to talk to someone, but not even knowing if you like them. And I don’t know if I want to hook up with anyone in my circles.
Unlike Japan, California is a true melting pot of cultures but since I had so little dating experience back home, I was nervous about getting into the dating scene in America.
Mostly because I had no idea how the American dating culture worked.
Growing up in Japan my parents were really strict and so I didn’t get an opportunity to start going on dates until after I graduated from high school.
Even though it had been my dream to live in America, I was very excited but nervous at the same time.
However, my teacher’s claim was later given real-life substance when the topic of couples and dating came up with my tandem partner.
My tandem partner is a girl I meet up and chat with each week, so that I can practice speaking German and she can practice her English.
Even though I’d already known that relationships in Germany tend to last longer, I was still slightly shocked when she told me.
I found it odd that a couple could be together that long without eventually committing to be together for life.
I was young and naïve so it was a little scary in the beginning and I soon discovered the dating process in America is quite different from the one in Japan.