Contact is reciprocal, time is made to see each other, and forward movement is evident. The hot phase is designed to get you in the gate that leads to the corral, where you’ll later be harnessed. Your partner begins to pull away making you long for their previous attention.
Whether initiated by a cold-shoulder, avoidance, or lack of communication… This phase activates loss, making you yearn for them and wait with bated breath for their call or text. These are the basic dance steps to this type of behavior. This formula is predictable and consistent even when your partner’s reactions are not.
Did it ever occur to you that you can find something so entertaining, fulfilling and exciting that can make you feel better at least for a while without feeling any pain?
As our relationship progressed, her text responses eventually came quicker.They’re not sorting out their last breakup, and they’re not swamped at work. The hot/cold scenario typifies much more than a lack of certainty on a lover’s part. You quickly find yourself craving more of this delicious new feeling.This phase lures you into the hopes of the possibility of romance.If I would have been nicer to him, would he have been nicer to me?If I would have been meaner to him, would he have been nicer to me?
But then I mentioned it to my other single friends—both men and women—and they all professed similar experiences.